Mission, Vision, Values

The mission of the Choose Joy Event is to provide faith-based support and education for those experiencing infertility or pregnancy loss.

Our vision is the promotion of accessible, faith-based infertility support.


  • Our faith is at the core of what we do. We believe that God sees us and cares for us in our grief, and does not desire infertility or child loss for any person.
  • Everyone who experiences infertility or pregnancy loss deserves the support of an empathetic community.
  • Education about loss, grief, and faith in the face of infertility or pregnancy loss is an integral part of the healing process.


I’m Emmy. I founded the Choose Joy Event with my husband, Nathan.

Our family adopted two girls after years of secondary infertility. We walked a very long and painful journey, but I would re-live every single second we spent on that road seven times over to bring our daughters into our family. God used those years to refine me as an individual and us as a family, and taught us that we need to love Him despite our circumstances and trust His plan even when it is different than our own.

Our story is one of high highs and low lows, of loss, despair, hope, joy, and ultimately of two miracles. When we thought we couldn’t afford to spend one more penny, God provided, and we were able to complete a $35k adoption. And another $45k one two years later.

One of the things that has always really frustrated me is the fact that the cost of alternative family building can make those options unattainable for some families. It is the salt in the wounds of infertility, and it is the reason so many children are without a home.  Since experiencing this painful reality myself, I have felt that at some point in my life I would become an advocate for these families.  In 2012 God made it clear that the time had come for me to step up to the plate. And the Choose Joy Event was born.

Our first event in February of 2013 was amazing. It was truly one of the most incredible days of my life. I didn’t think we could top it, but then our second event in May of 2014 was even more incredible!  So much goodness jam packed into one day… so much that we decided to make Choose Joy 2015 a two day event.  And what a phenomenal two days it was. At the 2015 Conference there was a subtle {but awesome and important} shift that took place as the men really stepped in as participants and not just attendees. Choose Joy 2016 did not disappoint. I find it hard to put into words what it is like to be in a room full of like-minded people who just get that thing that has caused you so much pain… to not have to explain or defend your grief, but to just feel understood… it is a unique experience.

saralucero_choosejoy2017-thrive balloonsChoose Joy 2017, our fifth conference, marked another shift – in the way we operated “behind the scenes.” I had a leadership team that worked seamlessly. In the weeks leading up to 2017 I remarked to Robyn (my right hand woman) more than once how peaceful and smooth the whole thing felt. We decided that we finally had the experience and expertise to respond to the request we’d been getting since day ONE of the very first Choose Joy – make the conference more accessible (and affordable) to people outside Southern California. So in 2018 we are holding the conference in beautiful Atlanta, Georgia!

This conference truly just keeps getting better and more powerful as the Lord leads us in developing the ministry of Choose Joy! Please join us and find your community!